Ep 80: Working With Your Paradigm: Knowing When to Challenge It and When to Harmonize
Picture this… what would have to change for you to earn in one month what you used to earn in an entire year? That’s the central idea behind a 30-Day Year, and the basis of The 30-Day Year Podcast.
But what if the biggest thing standing in your way is something you don’t even realize is affecting you?
In Episode #80 of The 30-Day Year Podcast, Dave and Jacq Conway talk about your paradigm, the often-hidden beliefs and habits that influence almost everything you do without you consciously thinking about them.
And Dave knows firsthand just how powerful and destructive those old patterns can be.
In fact, one of them cost him 15 years. 👀
So how do you recognize when your own paradigm is getting in your way? How do you change an old pattern without making yourself miserable trying to force it? And why does Dave believe there are some parts of your paradigm you may never completely get rid of? That’s where this whole conversation gets really interesting.
In this episode, you’ll hear Dave and Jacq talk about:
Why Dave doesn’t really think of a habit as a “thing,” and why that distinction matters so much when you’re trying to change one…
Why a goal that feels way too big for you right now might actually be exactly the kind of goal you need…
The question Dave asks himself throughout the day whenever he catches himself falling back into old thinking…
How Dave thinks about challenging himself without taking all the enjoyment out of what he’s doing…
What Dave means by “hypnotic rhythm,” including the pattern he believes cost him 15 years…
Why old thinking can still show up no matter how much work you’ve done on yourself…
And much more!
Imagine this… you’ve successfully changed the old habit you wanted to get rid of, and you’re doing great. But then something happens, and BANG… the old you shows up again.
Why does that happen?
That’s one of the fascinating questions Dave and Jacq tackle in Episode #80.
Tune in to the full episode now!
Key Takeaways
1.) A Habit Is the Expression of Something Deeper (2:18)
Dave says a habit isn't really a “thing.” It's the expression of a thing.
Behind the habit is your paradigm, all the beliefs and ideas sitting in your subconscious mind. And once something gets planted there, you start acting on it without even realizing you're doing it!
That changes the way you look at breaking a habit. Dave explains why in the episode.
Tune in to hear why!
2.) Why Dave Wants You to Set Really Big Goals (5:27)
Why do Dave and Jacq say you should set a goal that feels almost ridiculous?
For example, instead of asking how to earn just a little more money this year, what if your goal was to earn your current annual income in a month?
A goal that big forces you to look at how you're thinking and what would have to change for you to become the person capable of reaching it.
Dave and Jacq talk about why that's such an important part of the process in this part of the episode.
Be sure to listen in!
3.) The Question Dave Asks Himself Throughout the Day (6:11)
When Dave catches himself going down the wrong road mentally, he asks himself this one simple question:
“Does this thought bring me anything I want?”
He compares a thought to getting on a train. Once you get on, it's taking you somewhere. The question is: Do you actually want to go where it's taking you?
Dave explains how he uses this simple question to catch old thinking before it takes over.
Tune in now!
4.) When to Challenge Yourself and When Not To (11:54)
Dave believes you have to challenge old thinking and habits if you want different results.
But there's an important distinction: you're challenging the programming, not beating the heck out of yourself.
There are times to push yourself. There are also times when forcing something harder isn't the answer.
Dave and Jacq talk about how to know the difference.
Tune in now to hear them explain this in detail!
5.) The “Hypnotic Rhythm” Dave Says Cost Him 15 Years (13:45)
You know how you can drive somewhere you've driven a hundred times and barely remember the drive?
Dave says we can go through parts of our lives the same way.
He calls it the “hypnotic rhythm.”
What’s funny is that Dave knew when he was 18 that he was drawn to this kind of work. But he didn't actually pursue it until he was 33.
So what happened during those 15 years?
Dave gets into that in the episode.
Listen here now!
6.) Why Old Habits Can Come Back (22:17)
You can change a habit, do great for a while, and then suddenly find yourself slipping right back into the old pattern.
Why?
Dave believes old programming doesn't necessarily disappear completely. And when you're tired, stressed, or distracted, some of that old thinking can start showing up again.
So how do you keep it from taking over?
Listen here where Dave talks about the difference between being firm with yourself and being rigid, and why he believes grace matters too.
What to Do Next…
If there's one big idea to take from this episode, it's this:
You don't have to change everything at once.
Dave says to notice just one thought. Work on one habit. Catch yourself when the old programming shows up and keep practicing the new way of thinking.
And if you slip back into an old pattern?
Catch it and start again.
Want to hear Dave and Jacq explain how they actually do this?
Listen to the full episode, and be sure to check out the free resources below!
Free Resources Mentioned In This Episode
🎯 FREE 30-Day Year Goal-Setting Guide
Dave talks in this episode about why he wants you to set a goal that's really big, even one that might feel almost ridiculous to you right now.
Why?
Because a goal like that can force you to think differently about what's possible and start looking at what may need to change in order for you to reach it.
If you're wondering what that kind of goal could look like for you, our free 30-Day Year Goal-Setting Guide can help you figure it out and turn it into something specific you can start working toward.
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🚀 FREE 21-Day Money Momentum Challenge
Remember the part of the episode where Dave talks about being firm with yourself without becoming rigid?
That's especially important when you're trying to change an old habit or way of thinking.
You don't have to overhaul everything overnight. You just need to keep practicing.
That's exactly what our free 21-Day Money Momentum Challenge can help you do.
You'll have one simple thing to focus on each day as you work on the way you think about money and start building momentum toward your income goal.
Begin the FREE 21-Day Money Momentum Challenge now!
🧠 FREE Visualization Checklist
One of the main things Dave talks about in this episode is image-building, which is really about learning to see what you want in your mind before you have it in your life.
And this is something you can actually practice.
Our free Visualization Checklist walks you through the process step by step and gives you a simple way to start using visualization as you work toward your goal.
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In Episode 80 of The 30-Day Year Podcast, Dave and Jacqueline Conway break down the paradigm, the beliefs and habits fixed in your subconscious that quietly drive what you do. You'll learn how to catch old thinking, when to challenge your paradigm and when to harmonize with it, and how rituals and image-building help the change actually hold.